Observed over the past 3 days (names changed to protect privacy)...
1. A woman is introduced to another women at a social function- neither had previously met. "Hi, I'm Michelle. Nice to meet you." "Ah, Michelle, I'm Liz. I see you're expecting. When?" Michelle is not pregnant and has actually lost over 20 kgs recently.
2. A new employee(Andrew) pats another man's (David's) tummy and says "I see the gym's not working." David has actually lost 30 kgs over the previous few years way before Andrew ever joined his workplace. David works hard at the gym 4 to 5 times a week to keep that 30kgs off.
3. A woman(who is gorgeous and actually does part time work as a plus-size model) told by her boss that it was "important for the company that we pay attention to image and a healthy work/lifebalance and maybe you should talk to Jo (another colleague) about the gym she goes to". Jo is a natural size 8 who eats chippies and chocolate bars for lunch every day.
These are all true stories.
What I want to know is:
a) do these people know how rude they are?
b) are they just ignorant?
c) do they ever empathise with others?
d) do they just open their mouths before they think?
e) having made a hurtful comment why could not one of them realise it and apologise?
f) the first 2 scenarios were made in the company of several other people - why did no one step in and pull up the person who was out of line?
g) am I just over sensitive?
I'd also love to know what Michelle should have said in response to the suggestion she was pregnant?